Saturday, October 27, 2007

When gold digger met sugar daddy...

This is an actual post that was on craigslist and has been making the rounds online... I find this the funniest thing ever! Firstly, I am in finance, and the analogies in the guy’s response are just classic.. Secondly, I think this is the best rebuttal for all the women who expect someone else to pay their bills..The guy is a bit mean in his response..but it is still funny! Someone once told me that I was ambitious, and the way they said it made me feel that ambition was a dirty word….My response to it was I am practical. I want to have a certain lifestyle, and I don’t expect someone else to provide it for me unlike this woman here…

The Question

What am I doing wrong?
Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy. I'm not from New York . I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't think I'm overreaching at all.

Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 - 250. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?

Here are my questions specifically:

- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms

-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my
feelings

-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?

- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the story there?

- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?

- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY

Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front about it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.


And this is the answer:

I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament. Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it.
Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a cr@ppy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful!

So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!

So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful" as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.

By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation.

With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way. Classic "pump and dump."

I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hey Bridget.
I don't know what craiglist is, I'm afraid. However, it is definitely humourous. Surely it is a joke. If not, very sad, but possibly not surprising, that there are still women like that. I don't think the guy answering was very mean; he sounded quite business-like and honest. What she's doing wrong is if she's looking for a young good-looking single guy with lots of assets (financially and personal) and she has only one asset. She needs to look for an old rich guy. There are sure to be lots of those around looking for somebody to boost their ego.
bl at wrok

Anonymous said...

ps Bridget excuse my typo (s/b at work)

Anonymous said...

hey i'll be anyone's suga daddy anyday as long as i make it in i-banking!

V

Bridget Jones said...

BL - I started laughing when I read that she should go for an old guy.... good idea.. there would be quite a few who would want some arm candy!..btw, it is a true posting.. the response however started as a joke in an email and eventually made it to the internet..the guy is an i banker at JP Morgan

V - wow.. you have such lofty aspirations!...lol!